“Nothing gives me that magic feeling like the moment when a couple looks at each other and says “I feel safe to be my truest self with you.”
DANIELLE NASH
You’ve done everything you know to do. Your heart feels wrung out, dry from all you’ve given. You hardly recognize them, or yourself, anymore. You imagine life without this pain, but you can’t imagine life without them.
What if I told you that they’re shutting down, not because they don’t want you, but because they don’t want to fail you?
What if underneath all the rage and pain, you’re both just trying to say, “I love you, but I don’t know how to not lose you…”?
What if the parts of your relationship you think are lost are just buried?
I can help you uncover those treasures again. We will dig slowly and tenderly. I’ll help them step out to meet you. It will take time - they’ll need to know I see them too. But there will come a day when you’ll look into each other’s eyes and know that you are loved - exactly as you are.
Your relationship is a beautiful thing worth fighting for. Here’s how therapy can help:
01. Security
Feeling emotionally safe in your relationship is the foundation for everything. I’ll help you both feel seen and safe enough to reveal your hearts.
02. honesty
You’ll learn to express difficult emotions and ask for what you need, and to hold each other’s truths with openness and compassion.
03. connection
As we uncover the fears and needs beneath the negative behaviors, you’ll start creating new communication patterns and a deeper bond.
04. resilience
Life will have its ups and downs, but you’ll have the language to keep finding you way back to each other, long beyond our time together.
meet danielle, your therapist
“I’ll help you slow down those difficult moments, so that you can hear - beneath the confict - each other’s cry for connection.”
I’ve been where you are. I know how scary it is to feel like you’re losing them. I also know how incredible it is to experience each other in such a new way that you’re forever changed.
Through Emotion Focused Couples Therapy, I can offer you and your partner a safe space to to untangle the emotional knots, and let go of all that you’ve been holding back. I want to help you come alive with each other again, and experience a love where you feel both held and free.
If you’ll walk with me, this is the journey we’ll go on together:
01. Initial session
We’ll first meet all together so that I can get to know you as a couple, your relationship history, and any important events that have impacted your connection along the way. We’ll also talk about your goals for our work together.
02. Individual sessions
I will then meet with each of you for one session to talk about your own history which includes significant attachment relationships from childhood to adulthood.
03. Untangling
From the 4th session onwards we’ll work together to uncover the emotions and beliefs that are driving the negative patterns in your relationship. You’ll learn new ways to express your needs and create a deeper bond.
04. Rebuilding
We’ll use your new way of connecting to resolve problem areas in your relationship, so that you can stop fights before they escalate, and deepen your capacity to be there for each other beyond therapy.
Frequently Asked Questions
What is working with you like?
I take a relational approach to therapy, meaning I'm not just a passive observer, but an active participant in your therapeutic journey. Working with me hopefully feels like working with a deeply caring friend whom you can be unaplogetically yourself with. By engaging in a radically honest, fully human relationship with you, we'll be able to bring your relational patterns alive in the room and, in real-time, change and heal.
How will I know if we're a good fit?
Choosing the right therapist to reveal your heart to can of course feel daunting. That's why I offer free discovery calls so that you can ask me any questions, and get a real feel for what it's like working with me before you make any decisions. A successful therapeutic relationship is built entirely on trust and honesty. If, for whatever reason, I don't feel I'm the best person to support you, I will let you know.
To find out if we're a good fit, just get in touch for an obligation-free call.
How much does a session cost?
Couple sessions are 60 minutes at $220 a session.
How long does therapy last?
We'll know you're ready to move beyond therapy when you and your partner feel deeply attuned and emotionally safe with each other, and are able to resolve conflict in a peaceful and honest way. For most couples, this looks like weekly sessions for 1-3 years. Ultimately, you get to choose what works best for you.
Do you take insurance?
I am considered an out-of-network provider. If you have a diagnosis, I can provide you with a superbill after every appointment which contains all of the information your insurance company will need to reimburse you. I encourage you to consult with your insurance to find out about your out-of-network benefits.
Do you always see both partners together?
Following our first session together, I'll see each of you for an individual session to get a fuller understanding of your personal histories. From the 4th session onwards, we'll have all our sessions together again. I may ask to meet one of you individually if I sense it will benefit our process, but only if you both feel comfortable.
What type of Couples Therapy do you practice?
I practice what's called Emotion Focused Couples Therapy. It's considered one of the most emperically validated forms of couples therapy, with a very high and long-lasting recovery rate. Having worked with EFT both personally and professionally, I love how powerful it is untangling deeply engrained patterns, and creating long-lasting connection and resilience in a relationship.
EFT is based on Attachment Theory, the idea that we are all wired with the primal need to feel safe, but that we respond differently when that sense of security is threatened (say, during a fight with your partner). An avoidantly attached partner might shut down during conflict, causing an anxiously attached partner to feel more desperate (which, unfortauntaly, just drives their partner away even more). EFT brings light to these negative cycles so that couples can understand why they react the way they do, and start actively rewiring these subconcsious patterns with compassion, awareness and effective communication.
“My husband and I were struggling with disconnection and silence for days at a time, never fully resolving the core issues. Danielle has deeply impacted our marriage. She’s given us a better understanding of each other and our raw spots - allowing grace and connection in areas not experienced before.”
S.B. + A.B.
